[batching] tweak single cancellation point changes

[garypen]

These tweaks are enough (I think) for us to make progress.

Let's review together and then decide how to proceed.

Ref: #4661

[router-perf]

CI performance tests

• reload - Reload test over a long period of time at a constant rate of users
• events_big_cap_high_rate_callback - Stress test for events with a lot of users, deduplication enabled and high rate event with a big queue capacity using callback mode
• events_without_dedup_callback - Stress test for events with a lot of users and deduplication DISABLED using callback mode
• large-request - Stress test with a 1 MB request payload
• const - Basic stress test that runs with a constant number of users
• no-graphos - Basic stress test, no GraphOS.
• step-jemalloc-tuning - Clone of the basic stress test for jemalloc tuning
• events - Stress test for events with a lot of users and deduplication ENABLED
• events_callback - Stress test for events with a lot of users and deduplication ENABLED in callback mode
• events_big_cap_high_rate - Stress test for events with a lot of users, deduplication enabled and high rate event with a big queue capacity
• events_without_dedup - Stress test for events with a lot of users and deduplication DISABLED
• xxlarge-request - Stress test with 100 MB request payload
• xlarge-request - Stress test with 10 MB request payload
• step - Basic stress test that steps up the number of users over time