Commit Message: Provides an option to set udp_max_queries in DNSResolverOptions to limit max UDP queries.
Additional Description: This change does following:

• Implements the fix in this version of c-ares library that has been raised in this comment.
• Updates c-ares library to 1.20 to get access to the required change in the library.
• Updates resolver.proto to expose the option to pass udp_max_queries which can then be passed to c-ares.
• Updates dirty_channel status check logic to conditionally check for status == ARES_EREFUSED without which DestroyChannelOnRefused and CustomResolverValidAfterChannelDestruction test fail after upgrading the c-ares library to 1.20
• Adds a unit test to validate that when udp_max_queries is set, ARES_OPT_UDP_MAX_QUERIES flag is set as well.

Risk Level: Low
Testing: Unit test
Docs Changes: n/a
Release Notes: updated
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ref	dceddcb
sha	392cc7e
pr	33551
base-sha	81c6142
actor	@deveshkandpal1224
message	c-ares: add option for udp_max_queries...
started	1714356327.489532
target-branch	main
trusted	false

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